What is it about the suffering process that people tend to cling to?  What is it that’s so attractive about our own suffering that we allow it to stay in our lives?  I don’t get it.  But we all do it to ourselves….  until the pain gets us to the point of hitting bottom and just HAVE to make a change.  For everyone the ‘bottom’ is different.  It boggles the mind how far we can let things fester before we decide we’ve had enough.  We have the power to change our situation any time we want to, yet we often just don’t make that choice.  We always make the excuse that making the change will be more painful for us than the hell we’re putting ourselves through at that moment.  I’m here to say that’s a load of bunk!

For some folks, it has to actually come down to a life or death situation…. Say for one to quit smoking, or drinking, or using drugs… until the pain gets so real that you might DIE, you keep going.   For someone in horrible relationships, they stick with it long after knowing they shouldn’t because the fear of the unknown maybe harder to face than the pain of staying.  Folks I know have gone into depression over financial failures and just let it soak in real good instead of shaking it off and doing the necessary steps to change the downward spiral.

What I know today, from working with hundreds of people and hearing their stories, is that ONCE YOU TAKE THE FIRST STEP, life starts becoming phenomenal!  No, I’m not saying your entire life changes over night….but your perspective can, and that’s when the magic starts to happen.  It’s as simple as a decision.  No bull shit.  Once you DECIDE it’s time to change, it can, and it will.  It’s the teetering on the fence that kills us.  “Do I (quit, leave, stand up, move on, fill in the blank with whatever the symptom is) or do I keep doing what I’ve been doing, and keep getting the same life I’ve always had?”  Or worse, “I’ll do it tomorrow… or next week…. I’ll get around to it….”

Do you teeter on the curb trying to figure out if it’s time to cross the street?  Once you make the decision to cross, you just cross…look both ways and follow some rules, but you just cross.  You don’t get half way there and change your mind.  You GO.  Nothing is going to stop you once you’ve decided to go.

What keeps you stuck in your suffering?  Let me hear your comments…..