We all have time tested thoughts and philosophies on life.  Share yours here and tell us what your looking for in life.

Here’s some interesting thoughts.  They come from a woman in her 90′s…we can all learn something from her!

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer,
Cleveland , Ohio:

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons
life taught me.. It is the most-requested column I’ve
ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so
here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick;
your friends and parents will. Stay in touch

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying
alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea
what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But
don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or
joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you
stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood, but
the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life,
don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear
purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words’In
five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else
does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of
anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it
now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting
everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

As anyone would expect, anytime we feel like we’re making progress with self improvement, there’s always that brick wall. You know the one, and it’s likely different for each of us…the spouse, co-worker, boss, the guy that took your parking space, the dog….

Today it was my 13 year old. I’ve spent the last several days feeling fantastic everywhere I’ve gone. Nobody could get me down although they seemed to try, I didn’t allow anyone get to me. Not only did I not let them pull me down, they couldn’t help but be picked up from my contagious enthusiasm. But when I got home today, my teenager was being a typical moody teenager…need I say more? The wrong thing was said, and it went downhill from there. We were both throwing out the best ‘I can out insult you’ we could come up with and we both stomped off felling defeated. It certainly goes to show that we always hurt the ones we love.
I’m sharing this with you for two reasons. 1) I don’t always have the answers in the moment either. 2) and most important, we have to learn from the mistakes we make and work on making it right. We can create wreckage in our lives in less than a second. I didn’t have to engage in that interaction the way I did, and I’m the first to admit that I reacted poorly and without thought. But the cool part is, we can fix it….and we MUST. Certainly if it’s that guy in the parking lot that almost hit me, I may never see them again, but I do have to be able to sleep at night. But when it’s right here at home, deep down in my heart eating at me I can’t go very long without a yearning inside to have peace again. I know I can’t get there without reconciling the action I took that wasn’t right. What I have to remember is…. I’m still dealing with a moody teen that probably won’t want to hear my apology, but that doesn’t get me out of making it. The really hard part is I can’t control the reaction I’ll get from it, but I still have to do it.
I know that for me to continue to grow and develop myself in my relationships I have to learn to accept the parts outside of my control (other people’s response) but when I know that I’ve done the right thing, I can overcome any obstacle that comes my way. I have to continually work on ME…. Persevere through sometimes very hard and emotional triggers but what I get on the other side is very rewarding. So don’t let the brick wall set you back….take a breath and keep plugging along. We’ll all find the other side eventually! Because we CAN!

I like to talk a lot on the subject of getting stuck.  I guess that’s probably because I feel stuck pretty often myself.  When I first set out to create my website, I had all kinds of great idea flooding my head all the time.  I was passionate about my subjects, and the level of knowledge I had based on personal experiences that I was excited to share to help encourage others get through similar life stuff.  As I was sitting in front of a blank computer screen I was coming up blank.  I just didn’t know where to start.  I didn’t have a solid road map for how to get all of the “stuff” out of my head, and put into a sharable format.  I was STUCK. The more time I felt stuck, the longer I was stuck, and the more it felt like I’d be stuck longer.  I started to feel like this wasn’t going to work.  How can I help other people get “un-stuck” when I’m feeling  stuck myself?  I was a failure.  (said the voice in my head)  So I began this avoidance thing.  I busied myself doing a whole lot of “other important things” in order to keep me from having time to push through my own stuck.  Interestingly, once I began to stop thinking and start doing…the words just came.  The thing is, usually we know what needs to be done, but we need that push to get us over the hurdle that starts the momentum we need.

Simply put we need to get out of our own way.  We fill our own heads with self doubt and negative garbage that we somehow buy into and start to believe.  “I’m not good enough”.  “I don’t have what it takes”.  It’s like we become our own worst enemy.  What kind of nonsense is that anyway?  We would like to blame someone else, wouldn’t we?  But the truth is, there’s never anyone else holding us back from our dreams more than the face in the mirror.  Ouch, that hurts, huh?  Yeah, me too….  But here’s the secret….we have the power to change it!

Make a commitment here with me today.  Get unstuck with me.  Let’s encourage each other.  Sign up today for my program and I’ll share the secrets to getting out of our own way, and letting the life we want take over.

I like to talk a lot on the subject of getting stuck.  I guess that’s probably because I feel stuck pretty often myself.  When I first set out to create my website, I had all kinds of great idea flooding my head all the time.  I was passionate about my subjects, and the level of knowledge I had based on personal experiences that I was excited to share to help encourage others get through similar life stuff.  As I was sitting in front of a blank computer screen I was coming up blank.  I just didn’t know where to start.  I didn’t have a solid road map for how to get all of the “stuff” out of my head, and put into a sharable format.  I was STUCK. The more time I felt stuck, the longer I was stuck, and the more it felt like I’d be stuck longer.  I started to feel like this wasn’t going to work.  How can I help other people get “un-stuck” when I’m feeling  stuck myself?  I was a failure.  (said the voice in my head)  So I began this avoidance thing.  I busied myself doing a whole lot of “other important things” in order to keep me from having time to push through my own stuck.  Interestingly, once I began to stop thinking and start doing…the words just came.  The thing is, usually we know what needs to be done, but we need that push to get us over the hurdle that starts the momentum we need.

Simply put we need to get out of our own way.  We fill our own heads with self doubt and negative garbage that we somehow buy into and start to believe.  “I’m not good enough”.  “I don’t have what it takes”.  It’s like we become our own worst enemy.  What kind of nonsense is that anyway?  We would like to blame someone else, wouldn’t we?  But the truth is, there’s never anyone else holding us back from our dreams more than the face in the mirror.  Ouch, that hurts, huh?  Yeah, me too….  But here’s the secret….we have the power to change it!

Make a commitment here with me today.  Get unstuck with me.  Let’s encourage each other.  Sign up today for my program and I’ll share the secrets to getting out of our own way, and letting the life we want take over.

While attending a James Ray “Harmonic Wealth Weekend” conference, I was witness to an amazing, heartwarming thing.  The subject was Money, and James was talking about our fears around it.  He gave us (the 500 attendees) an assignment.  He asked all of us to pull out of our wallets all the money we were willing to INVEST IN OURSELVES.  Then he had us wad it up in one hand so nobody could see what we had, then go around the room and exchange handfuls of money.  There were 500 people dancing around the room passing money from one hand to another like a game of musical chairs.

The interesting thing was, on the first pass, there was a huge hesitation to let our own money go from our fingers…everyone felt it.  But once that money was long gone, and the fistfuls came and went from one person to another the mood changed dramatically.  The game became fun, like sitting at a slot machine…someone was going to hit big, why not me?  Some handfuls were obviously bigger than others, some just had a few coins, but they quickly moved on to the next open hand as we danced throughout the room.

After the game was over and we were back in our seats, everyone counted up there “winnings” and we were to discuss how we felt about what had happened.  James then asked a few people to stand up and talk about the experience in front of everyone.  The first woman talked about how liberating it was because she was “up” over $200 from what she started with.  The next guy stood up and began crying because he’d just lost everything he had…his gas money to get home.  James brought this man on stage and began working him through his fears around money, which was a very emotional journey for him and everyone that could relate to him.

While this was going on, I noticed a stir within the audience.  A bag was being passed around as a collection to give him to replace what he’d lost and get him home. When the bag came to me, I tossed in the money I had from “winning” the game, and to my own surprise, it was without hesitation.  So I’m thinking, I hesitated to put all I had in my wallet to INVEST IN MYSELF, yet when someone was in need, I didn’t think twice!

At the end of his time on stage they presented him with a bag, and a box FULL of cash!  I later heard from one of the staff that it turned out to be over $2600.  There was not a dry eye in the house and everyone was cheering for this guy for the breakthrough he had with James, as well as for his newly found wealth.

It really goes to show how we as human beings band together for one another when there is crisis.  We’ve seen it when tragic events happen, like 9/11, natural disasters, etc… but in an event such as this one, I was really touched at how willing 500 total strangers were to give away what we had to help make some magic for someone.  I do believe it is our nature to BE THERE for one another.  We were not meant to do life alone.  We need each other, as brothers and sisters in this great life.

What happens to us in our daily lives that make us unconsciously unwilling to help others?  No spare time?  No spare change?  I think not.  We all have something to offer, no matter how small.  I challenge you to do some little thing today that can change the course of someone else’s life.  Why?  BECAUSE WE CAN!

Share your experiences with us!  I want to hear your comments.

Every once in a while I am touched by an experience that I feel compelled to share.  I know that by sharing such experiences it will inspire others to step out of themselves and be a part of something big.
My wife and I spent a weekend in San Diego recently.  While we were on a date, we were walking around in Balboa Park.  As we were getting ready to cross the street leaving a parking lot we heard the thundering sound of motorcycles approaching.  A very distinct sound to me…not just  motorcycles, but Harley Davidson’s.  And not just one or two, but maybe fifteen to twenty were lining up, getting ready to caravan out of the park.  Being a Harley owner myself, I grabbed my camera to capture the moment when I noticed a lady walk up to the first guy on his bike, talk with him for a second and then she pointed across the parking lot where her family was standing.
Without hesitation the biker made a motion to his group and they all filed over to the curbside to line up in front of this family.  In the center of the family members was a wheelchair bound child with a severely debilitating physical handicap.  While this boy watched the group of Harley’s line up in front of him he beamed with excitement, his arms flailed as though he was ready to leap up and jump on the back of a bike.  In that moment, this child shined with energy like his every wish had just come true… and a lump weld up in my throat.  The mother got the photo that she had asked for and all the bikers waved to the boy and his family as they left the parking lot in formation.
These guys took less than five minutes from their day, from their drive, from their lives for a small thing….but it was HUGE in the eyes of this child, his family, and the other spectators like myself.  I applauded the gang as they drove off.  My heart was filled with gratitude for the unselfishness of these men in that moment.
I’d like to challenge you to make a difference today!  Do something, some little insignificant thing to one person, which might mean the world to another.  Why???  Because we CAN!

Let me hear about your stories!!!